The following rules are divided into categories. It is *required* that all members review and understand all rules herein. If there is any confusion or question pertaining to a rule, you are required to seek clarification from a moderator or administrator prior to posting.

General Board Rules

1. Only one account is allowed per person. If you would like your user name changed, please message a moderator. Multiple accounts under the same person will result in the banning of all accounts.

2. Alters may not post or participate in any section of the forums or chat.

3. You are required to have a minimum of 10 posts before you can send other members private messages.

4. Moderator or Administrator decisions are not disputable. All decisions are made with the safety and comfort of members in mind. We will do our best to address concerns and complaints regarding any issues that may arise. If you feel an issue has been handled unsatisfactorily, despite our attempts to handle the situation, you are free to seek support elsewhere at any time. If, however, there is an issue with a moderator specifically, please contact a different moderator or the administrator.

5. ViS advises AGAINST sharing personal information. This includes email addresses, full names, instant messenger ID's, personal website addresses, phone numbers and other external means of communication. We do, however, understand that members will seek to communicate outside of ViS and pursue friendships both online and in person. Be aware that we strongly advise against this practice.

6. Should you have any personal issues with another member, please address it in a mature, respectful manner. Personal attacks in any form will not be tolerated. If this is an issue that cannot be resolved privately between members, please bring it to the attention of the moderators or Administrator.

7. Spamming or botting is prohibited. This includes, but is not limited to, commercial listings, promotion of commercial and/or personal websites, etc. Active members of the board are of course encouraged to suggest helpful resources. However, registering for the sole purpose of promoting your website or other people's websites, or events is prohibited.

8. Requests for money, housing, sheltering, transportation, or similar activities are not allowed. If needed, moderators are available to help members with referrals to appropriate agencies and organizations.

9. This Board is not meant to be a substitute for professional counseling, therapy or medical advice. This is a message board created by untrained volunteers. Any advice given here in is under the sole discretion of members. The administrators and moderators of this board are not professionals.

10. Refrain from using the boards if you are in any way impaired. This includes under the influence of any intoxicant, suffering from severe swings due to bipolar, depression or DID, or entertaining thoughts of suicide or abuse.


Posting Rules

1. Victors are all in their own stages of healing. Some may benefit from therapy while others may not. Some may be on medication while others abstain. It is imperative to the spirit of a supportive community that all members acknowledge and respect the differences between us.

2. If your post is going to contain graphic details or triggering material, please add TW (Trigger Warning) to the title of your post. This does not apply to the 'Share Your Story' section of the forums as a trigger warning has already been provided.

4. Inflammatory comments, hate posts, discrimination, and personal attacks will be deleted and may result in having the privilege of posting on this board revoked. This may include, but is not limited to, inappropriate comments made in regard to race, gender, sexual preference, religion, ethnicity, age or economic status. We urge all members to keep an open mind and treat each other with respect.

5. Religious and political debate must be conducted with respect and dignity. You are free to discuss religious or political beliefs and their healing effects on you. ANY suggestion that one's belief or lack there of is 'wrong' is inappropriate and will not be tolerated. Religious and political diversity is a fact of life and must be respected on this board by all members.

6. Do NOT post suicide notes or threats. While we are here for one another and wish to help one another through difficult times, we cannot help someone who is thinking of killing herself or himself. The situation needs to be handled by professionals. If you are thinking of suicide, please contact the police, a local hotline, or RAINN (1-800-656-HOPE). Posts containing suicide notes or good-bye letters will be edited or deleted.

7. Do not post statements detailing self-injury. While it is acceptable and appropriate to share your struggle with SI, it is not appropriate to make statements such as 'I want to cut' or 'I just cut'. These statements may trigger others who have similar struggles or members who have trouble with this type of injury. Any discussion condoning, glorifying or detailing SI will be immediately removed.

8. As with SI discussion, do not discuss addictions in detail. This includes, but is not limited to, sexual addictions, drug and alcohol addictions and other self-destructive behaviors. We are here to support each other through a wide range of personal issues, but due to the triggering nature of these comments, please address them with care.

9. Never post the full name of any perpetrator, your own or someone else's. This is to ensure that perpetrators cannot locate you searching for references of themselves, so that anyone who may know your perpetrator cannot find you, and to ensure other members do not put themselves at risk for your sake. This also protects ViS and yourself from any legal reprisal should your perpetrator or their relatives attempt to discredit you. First names or nicknames are permitted.

10. Please be sure to stay on topic when replying to threads. This includes short replies of hugs or generic statements. While it is acceptable and kind to give each other supportive words, some posters may feel invalidated if they only receive generic replies to their posts unless they ask for them specifically. For this reason, please try to stay on topic and post replies that you would like to receive. It is inevitable that at some point you will be at a loss for words but would still like to give an individual your support. In this case it is best to say exactly that.


These rules are subject to amendment at any time with or without notice. It is the responsibility of members to be continually aware of all rules at all times. Any infringement of the above rules may result in permanent banning of the user's account. Permanent banning is also possible due to acts not listed above and are by the discretion of the Administrator and moderators in order to ensure the safety and legality of the board and community as a whole.